The first step in creating great intimacy in marriage is finding mutual fulfillment. Here are some ways to do that:
  • Husbands and wives must consistently practice the concept of mutuality—mutual respect and mutual responsibility—in their sexual relationship. When there is a spirit of mutuality, passion will be expressed, sexual freedom discovered, and true “oneness” fulfilled.
  • Sexually speaking, men and women are different. Women function on two tracks—the emotional track and the physical track. For a woman to be sexually aroused, these two tracks must intersect.
  • Essentially men function on one track or they have the emotional and physical reversed. This means that when physically aroused, men will almost always be emotionally ready to have sex. It is also true that (in general) women open up sexually when they feel connected with their husband, while men connect emotionally and open up through sex and physical touch.
  • Because of these differences, a husband must start the process of discovering mutual sexual fulfillment by connecting with his wife. A husband’s love, adoration, and connection will help ignite his wife’s sexual passion. He feels loved by her positive response to his advances and they both end up fulfilled.
  • A woman’s responsibility is to receive her husband’s affirmation and lead by invitation, as did the bride in the Song of Solomon. For a woman to do this, she has to believe she is worthy and has a right to be sexual. She has to know that her body was designed for her sexual satisfaction.
  • When the husband connects lovingly with his wife and the wife embraces her sexuality and shares it with her husband, a platform for mutual fulfillment is created.