Air your feelings, even if only to yourself. For instance, say “I want to run him over with a truck!” This allows you to observe and give shape to your own emotions.

Confide is someone. Don’t isolate yourself. This does not mean you should pour your heart out to everyone who casually asks how your’re doing, but do let your fair down with the people who have a genuine interest in your well-being.

Start a journal or a blog. Studies show that writing about a traumatic events is another way of letting it out that can help minimize the chances of getting sick or becoming depressed. The more you write about the situation, the more your negative emotional responses to the memory diminish. Acknowledging and expressing your anger, sadness, or fear through writing allows you to release the emotion.