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Paducah, KY, Monday, May 07, 2018

Christian Counseling Center is A Professional Caring Ministry Since 1986

Roger Thompson, Executive Director, is pleased to announce that Kimberly Rowe, MEd, LPCA will be joining our staff.  She will be accepting all types of referrals for mental and behavioral problems.

Kim obtained a Bachelor of Business Administration in Management from the University of Texas at Arlington, TX. She then obtained her Masters of Education with a focus on Mental Health Counseling from the Lindsey Wilson School of Professional Counseling College at Columbia KY. Since 2015 she has worked with clients at Recovery Works to provide group and individual counseling regarding Anxiety, Anger Management and substance dependence.

Kim is a member of the American Counseling Association (ACA) and Kentucky Counseling Association (KCA). She is a Volunteer Tutor and Women’s Support Group Facilitator at the Ninth Street Church of Christ in Paducah. She also teaches life skills to 3rd through 5th graders from local elementary schools. She is an avid gardener and enjoys spending time with her husband and two children.

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Kim says, “Beginning again is an opportunity not always given. I am especially excited to work with individuals and families that have made the decision to begin again. I look forward to assisting you in acquiring and utilizing the tools in navigating life’s challenges and moving forward.”

 Appointments can be made by calling the Christian Counseling Center at 270-442-5738. You may also visit us on the web at www.ccchope.com.

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Summertime is a great time for families to spend more time together.

Close families don’t happen by accident, they happen on purpose.  If you want a close family, you have to work at it.  Here are a few suggestions to help you get started.

  1. Let each family member pick a day to be “their” day. Circle those days on the calendar and put the family member’s name on the date.  On that day they are to have their favorite meal and choose an activity which they want the entire family to participate in.
  2. Turn off all electrical items that can interrupt (TV, stereo, phone, etc.) and have the entire family play a game together.pexels-photo-279008.jpeg
  3. Have each family member design and make a card for other members of the family in which thoughts and feelings of appreciation are expressed.
  4. Begin a contest to see who can deliver the most hugs in a certain period of time.
  5. Spend the evening looking at family photographs together.
  6. Invite someone you know that is recently widowed to your house to share a family meal.
  7. Send a thank you card in the mail to a family member thanking them for something they have done for you or the family.
  8. Even if it requires getting up early, sit down and have breakfast together.
  9. Let each family member tell their most unforgettable family memory.
  10. Declare a family clean-up day. Work together inside or outside the house instead of assigning separate choirs.

These ideas are just a few of the suggestions in “30 Days to a Closer Family” by David Johnson, M.S.W. and Scott Bonk, M.S.

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Research shows that supportive relationships are good for our mental and physical health. However, dealing with difficult people and maintaining ongoing negative relationships is actually detrimental to our health.

The following are tips for dealing with difficult people who are in your life, for better or for worse:

  1. In dealing with difficult people, don’t try to change the other person; you will only get into a power struggle, cause defensiveness, invite criticism, or otherwise make things worse. It also makes you a more difficult person to deal with.
  2. Change your response to the other person; this is all you have the power to change. For example, don’t feel you need to accept abusive behavior. You can use assertive communication to draw boundaries when the other person chooses to treat you in an unacceptable way.
  3. Remember that most relationship difficulties are due to a dynamic between two people rather than one person being unilaterally “bad.” Try not to place blame on yourself or the other person for the negative interactions. It may just be a case of your two personalities fitting poorly.
  4. Try to look for the positive aspects of others, especially when dealing with family, and focus on them. The other person will feel more appreciated, and you will likely enjoy your time together more.
  5. Know when it’s time to distance yourself, and do so. If the other person can’t be around you without antagonizing you, minimizing contact may be key. If they’re continually abusive, it’s best to cut ties and let them know why. Explain what needs to happen if there ever is to be a relationship, and let it go. (If the offending party is a boss or co-worker, you may consider switching jobs.)

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Remember that you don’t have to be close with everyone; just being polite goes a long way toward getting along and appropriately dealing with difficult people. Be sure to cultivate other more positive relationships in your life to offset the negativity of dealing with difficult people.

 

From Elizabeth Scott, M.S.,Your Guide to Stress Management About.com Health’s Disease and Condition

Following exposure to a trauma most people experience stress reactions. When trauma survivors take direct action to cope with their stress reactions, they put themselves in a position of power. Certain actions can help to reduce your distressing symptoms and make things better. Plus, these actions can result in changes that last into the future.

Active Coping. Active coping with the trauma makes you begin to feel less helpless. Active coping means accepting the impact of trauma on your life and taking direct action to improve things. Active coping occurs even when there is no crisis. Active coping is a way of responding to everyday life. It is a habit that must be made stronger.

Positive coping actions.

  • Learn more about trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It is useful to learn more about common reactions and what is normal. When you learn more you realize that you are not alone or weak.
  • Talk to others for support. It is important not to isolate yourself.
  • Distract yourself with positive activities. Pleasant activities can improve your mood and distract you from your memories.
  • Talk to your doctor or counselor. Part of taking care of yourself means using the helping resources around you. If efforts at coping don’t seem to help, you may become fearful or depressed.

 Practice relaxation methods. Try some different ways to relax, such as:

  • Muscle relaxation exercises.
  • Breathing exercises.
  • Meditation.
  • Swimming, stretching, yoga.
  • Prayer.
  • Listening to quite music.
  • Spending time in nature.

Know the recovery process. Understand that recovering from the trauma is a process and takes time. Knowing this will help you feel more in control.

  • Having an ongoing response to the trauma is normal.
  • Recovery is an ongoing, daily process. It happens little by little. It is not a matter of being cured all of a sudden.
  • Healing doesn’t mean forgetting traumatic events. It doesn’t mean you will have no pain or bad feelings when thinking about them.
  • Healing may mean fewer symptoms and symptoms that bother you less.
  • Healing means more confidence that you will be able to cope with your memories and symptoms. You will be better able to manage your feelings.

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We are here to help if you would like to learn more about coping skills. Whether there is a recent trauma or stress in everyday life, active coping is a habit that can be made stronger.

adhdIs your child unfocused or over active?

Is your child struggling academically?

As an adult, are you constantly disorganized?

Are you constantly struggling to stay on task?

Early diagnosis and treatment can improve self-esteem, build confidence and make one more productive in the workplace.

The staff at Christian Counseling Center is trained in the diagnostic criteria and treatment strategies to assist children and adults with ADD/ADHD.

Call 270.442.5738 for more information and to schedule an appointment.

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Focus on your future today!

 

A first-born or only child may be more likely to become a doctor or lawyer. Younger siblings more often turn to the arts or the outdoors. In part, you can credit parenting.

  • Parents may over-protect oldests or onlies. So they tend to follow more brain-based interests. When later children show up, parents can be more relaxed and hands-off.
  • Firstborns tend to try to be “perfect” more often than later-borns. But kids without siblings, who are often treated like little adults, seem to have even more of this trait.
  • 21 out of 23 of the first American astronauts were first born. All seven of the original Mercury astronauts were firstborns. Other famous firstborn trail-blazers: Winston Churchill, Bill Gates, JFK, and Oprah Winfrey.
  • It’s lonely at the top — or at least, at the beginning! A 2007 survey of corporate leaders found that 43% of CEOs were firstborns, 33% were middle children, and 23% were youngest children.200485798-009
  • Even when parents try to be even-steven, it rarely works out that way. Kids born first get as much as 3,000 more hours of quality time with parents than younger siblings do at the same age. Parents spend about equal time with two or more kids. But there’s less total free time than there was when a firstborn passed through a given age.
  • It’s clear why birth order interests us so much. Most of us weren’t born as the only child in a family.
  • Older moms say they feel closest to their “babies” no matter what the family size or spacing between kids. In the same study, mothers said firstborns were the ones they’d turn to when facing personal problems or a crisis.

Depression is a complex problem that affects many people.  It rarely exists in isolation.  It can be triggered and affected by neurons, hormones, nutrition, thought patterns, social interactions, or genetic predisposition.  Many depressive episodes are triggered by major life changes and stressful events; biological imbalance, illness and injury; personality and family history; vitamin deficiency; medications; or other causes.

Major Life Changes and Stressful Events

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  • Childhood trauma
  • Death or a loss
  • Divorce (break up)
  • Redundancy
  • Loneliness
  • Moving
  • Getting a new job
  • Financial worries
  • Difficult social circumstances
  • Abuse (emotional, sexual, physical)
  • Overworking
  • Giving birth
  • Unemployment

Biological Imbalance, Illness, Injury

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  • Brain injury
  • Under-active thyroid
  • Cushing’s syndrome
  • Celiac disease
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Kidney disease
  • Pyrrole Disease
  • Cancer
  • Heart disease
  • Crohn’s disease
  • Candida overgrowth
  • Arthritis
  • Multiple sclerosis
  • Lupus

Personality and Family History

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  • Chronic self-criticism
  • Crippling guilt and shame
  • Being criticized and invalidated
  • Perfectionism
  • Ruminative thinking
  • Negative bias
  • Learned helplessness
  • Predisposition based on family history

Vitamin Deficiency

  • B complex
  • Vitamin D
  • Omega 3 fatty acids
  • Folate
  • Magnesiium
  • Amino acid
  • Iron
  • Zinc
  • Iodine
  • Selenium

Treatments and Medications

 

  • Hormonal contraception
  • Accutane
  • Corticosteroids
  • Interferon-alpha
  • Opioids
  • Benzodiazepines
  • Barbiturates
  • Anticholinergics
  • Poor Sleep
  • Internet overuse
  • Smoking, alcohol and drug use
  • Passive lifestyle
  • Unmet basic emotional needs

 

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Have you ever met a joyful person who was chronically worried? Giving in to fear is a joy-killer.  When you live in fear you will know the pain of constant, chronic, low-grade anxiety. But when you overcome fear, you will know delight.

According to current research, most worriers tend to have high-capacity imaginations.  They usually carry above-average IQ’s. They are often people with much creative potential. But their imaginations run toward the negative. They tend to catastrophize:

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  • What if I get in an accident and wreck the car?
  • What if I lose my wallet?

All these things are contingent, set in the future, and may never happen at all! In fact, most of them won’t. But living with a fear-filled perspective robs you of life now!

A healthy sense of perspective allows us to assign these events a realistic assessment that helps us get on with life. But when you live in fear, the power of the “what if” becomes overwhelming, and you will go through life without joy. Joy and fear are fundamentally incompatible.

Exerpts from: If You Want to Walk on Water, You’ve Got to Get Out of the Boat – John Ortberg

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away!

Do you carry your cell phone everywhere you go?  Are you constantly checking to see if you have new messages, texts, emails, or other forms of data? Do you put your cell phone on the table when you eat? Do you lay it beside the bed at nights? Our cell phones are helpful devices to serve a purpose in our lives, but it has become a potential addiction for many. You can notice people walking with their cell phones, while oblivious to others around them. It may prevent you from developing person to person relationships that require time to develop. Cell phones typically foster communication with sound bite messages rather than conversation. Facebook, Instagram, texts, and Twitter are frequent avenues for exchanging information or photos. Some are personal while others are impersonal and viewed by many. Messenger is a source for communication in a personal way between two individuals.

Teens and preteens are frequently distracted while in classes. Inattention creates poor learning skills resulting in poor grades much like ADHD. ADHD is a neurological and behavioral problem interfering with learning. Cell phones have become a distraction causing a reaction and irritability when information is not processed quickly or instantaneously as expected.  Please read to learn more about Smartphone addiction or over use.  There will be additional blogs on our website (www.ccchope.com) and Facebook page about the Smartphone which will include: 1. What is the smartphone addiction,  2. Effects of smartphone addiction, 3. Signs and symptoms of smartphone addiction,   4. Withdrawal symptoms from smartphone addiction, and 5. Tips for helping children and teens.

Think Positive! Wow, that’s a lot of pressure. When you are going through a struggle, it’s not easy to will yourself to think positive. While, “It’s ok, just think positive”, seems like good advice, positive thinking alone does nothing but get in the way of reaching your goal.

Take action. For progress of any kind you need to focus most ofgoal.jpg
your energy on positive action.

Define your objective or goal. It is important to know exactly what result you want to achieve.

Make a list. There are steps that you need to take to get there.

Track your progress. Every improvement you experience stimulates and rewards your brain, making you feel good about the accomplishment. When you feel good about something you’ve done, you get more motivated to keep doing it. However, accountability is a key ingredient to reaching your goals.

You know where you want to go; you know how to get there; you are motivated because of your positive actions. Positive thinking can get you started. But even successful people have negative thoughts. Just positive thinking by itself can be a stumbling block to solving a problem or reaching a goal. Take positive action instead.

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