Trauma is a life event or sudden change in our life that has the potential to overwhelm us. The death of a spouse, job loss, sexual abuse, abandonment, devastation due to storms or fire, are a few sudden changes in our lives that create an overwhelming presence too difficult to cope with alone.
Trauma may impact us with a myriad of symptoms. You may have trouble sleeping, have trouble concentrating, feel detached or in a daze. When you or someone you love begins to deal with the impact of a heartbreaking event, there are some things to help.
- Understand that it is normal to feel the way you do at this time.
- Crying is normal and healthy.
- Telling the story of the event relieves the stress of the trauma.
- Maintain close bonds with caring people.
- Begin each day with 5 minutes of deep, relaxed breathing.
- It is OK to ask for help.
- Be Patient.
When you are helping others:
- Never ask “why” they feel the way they do.
- Do not attempt to solve a problem, just listen.
- Avoid needless questioning for details of your own curiosity, let them tell their story. They need to be heard
- Avoid telling your own war stories.
- Avoid statements that minimize their feelings.
- Avoid statements of “you should”.
The good news about recovering from trauma is that it is possible and can lead to personal growth that otherwise might not have occurred.
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